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Monday, June 24, 2013

FREEDOM


Saturday was residency graduation!  Everything was beautiful.  We had the ceremony and dinner at The Ritz Carlton.  Here's my photo dump:





Jeff with his brothers


Proud wife!


Testing out the camera

With his mom

My friend and fellow Ortho wife, Erin :)

The residents- 2013 graduates in white jackets

Graduating class of 2013!


Getting his diploma



Brothers at dinner


Jeff's Dad- 2 generations of docs trained in Nola!

After the ceremony and dinner ended, everyone headed back to a hotel suite the chiefs rented out for an after party.  It had a balcony overlooking Bourbon St which was perfect for people watching!  We partied the night away until we got shut down by security at around 2am...so we moved the party to a bar and danced til 4.  We had the perfect time- everyone was in a great mood and it was such a special send off.  Holy crap we're done with residency!  So bittersweet.

When we made it back to the suite to finally go to bed, we passed this guy in the lobby of the hotel:




Picture this- a deserted lobby in a gorgeous hotel.  No other guests or security in sight.  This guy passed out at the piano, unbuttoned shirt, beads around his neck, room key on the piano at approximately 4:15am.  Looks like we weren't the only ones who had a great night!


Saturday, June 22, 2013

IT'S HERE

It's here it's here it's here!  Residency graduation is this very night!

I've been running around like crazy the past 2 days trying to get everything ready for this weekend.  After I finished teaching my class yesterday I launched into a mad dash to get all of the little things done that fell by the wayside until last minute.  I got my shoes and new cocktail jewelry for my outfit tonight, nails are done, fake tanner applied.  Had to test out and buy new makeup because Clinique stopped making my foundation- of course.  Made a Sam's trip with another wife yesterday to get all the food and alcohol for the after party.  Spent all morning cleaning the house before the in laws come in town today.  Had to make yet another run to the nail salon because of course I already messed up my nails doing all of these other things...

I finally have a minute to sit down and catch my breath.  Now we just need to check into the hotel in a couple of hours and lug all of our stuff and things for the after party up to the suite we reserved for the night.  I'm off to start getting ready to go- can't wait to post some pictures from the night!

And oh yea- I sent some embarrassing pictures of Jeff to the resident who is roasting him tonight.  This should be fun ;)


Sunday, June 16, 2013

End of an Era

It's almost that time!  YOU know what I'm talking about.

That time we've all been waiting for...RESIDENCY GRADUATION!  That's right people, Jeff has (officially) 1 week left of residency.  Although he'll be spending his time finishing up his research project instead of working at the hospital.

Is this really happening though?  Is it really finally our turn?!  I mean, logically I knew this day would one day come but it always seemed so far away.  Now it's almost here, right around the corner, less than a week away.  You're all probably going to say I'm crazy for writing this, and maybe I am...but is it wrong to say I'm a little sad?

Why should I be sad?  Shouldn't I be jumping for joy? After all, it has been a pretty rough 5 years.  We've been through holidays spent alone, months and months of away rotations, nights where Jeff never came home from the hospital, getting little to no sleep on a "slow" night, being told when we were allowed to take a vacation and when we weren't, feeling oh-so-under compensated, missed weddings and graduations and birthdays of friends and family, been under constant stress from just trying to get through the week.  If we could just get through one more week, surely the next one would be better.  Sometimes it was, but it usually wasn't.

I can count on one hand the number of weekdays we've been up at the same time in the morning, but I can't count how many dollars we've spent on the never-ending parade of "what it takes to become a doctor" expenses.  Or the number of Friday or Saturday nights I've spent alone, fully dressed because "I'll be home at 6" turned into finally walking in the door at 9:00.

But it's been our life for 5 years and it's become comfortable.  We grew as a couple here and we fell in love with this city.  We got engaged and then married here.  We became "grown ups" here, in the midst of residency.  Maybe because of residency now that I think about it.  It forced us to learn how to manage our finances and it taught me how to be independent.  It taught us both responsibility and humility.

So, as hard as these past 5 years have been, yes I'm a little sad.  Not because I'll miss the hard times but because I think I'll miss what they represent.  Our lives are about to change in a big way over the next couple of years, so maybe I'm just a little scared and clinging onto what feels safe and familiar.  Either way, these 5 years have been good years, overall.  Everyone knows I'm going to miss New Orleans, but what you may be surprised to hear is that I just might miss residency a little bit too.




Sunday, June 9, 2013

Frenemies?

It's hard to meet close friends after college.  Especially moving around so much for residency, fellowship, a job- it's just hard to meet people and stay in one place long enough to become close because people are always coming and going (because most of the new people you meet are in the medical field too).  People have busier lives now then when we were in college- demanding jobs, many are raising kids.  But I try my best to build friendships with the few people I form a bond with out in the trickier adult world.

I'm sad as I write this post.  It's something that's been bothering me for awhile though, years maybe.  I think I've come to a stage in life where I need to cut my losses and move on, away from some friendships that have become toxic.  You know the kind- where you feel like you do your best to put forth effort to sustain the relationship but the person isn't a good friend to you in return?  I think I've held onto some of these friendships for too long because it has been so much harder to make friends after college where you literally eat, drink, and sleep next to your co-eds.

This is easier said than done because I've spent years of my life feeling like some of these people were my closest friends, so I probably forgive them more times than they deserve.  I'm just tired of getting back in line to board the emotional rollercoaster over and over again.  It gets to a point where it's just not worth the grief.

One such friend makes me feel like everything is a competition.  I can't even have a normal conversation without her going on and on about how fabulous and perfect her life is....what are you trying to prove?  It's as if life is a race to her and she has to win.  I just sit there and don't say anything in response, thinking she'll eventually stop bragging if I don't feed into it, but she just keeps on talking!  It's really quite impressive.

Another couple of friends leave me out of everything.  Either we are not as close as I thought we were, or they are incredibly insensitive.  Maybe both.  It's just so emotionally draining.  I'm tired of going out of my way to keep up with them over the years just to feel like I've been punched in the stomach when I find out that once again, I'm the only person to be left out of a get together.  I have too many instances where this has happened to list.  Someone tell me, are we in junior high school?

I've met some incredibly fantastic friends in New Orleans though.  Girls who have been genuinely happy for my success and have been there for me during hard times.  They know more about my life now than anyone else.  I always say how much I'm going to miss New Orleans when we move for fellowship next month, but I'm more sad to be moving before I've had a chance to really get to know a few of these ladies.  Not going to lie, it gives me some anxiety.  We'll only be at Jeff's fellowship for 1 year and that's really not much time to meet new people and develop friendships before packing up and moving again.  It just gets harder.  I think maybe the hardest part of this medical journey for me is feeling very "temporary" in all aspects of life- living arrangements, furniture, jobs, and friendships.

Have you ever had to just move on from old friendships that were doing you more harm than good?  Do you have any tips for meeting new people in new cities?




Thursday, June 6, 2013

School's out for-eva!

Apparently I have this little thing called a blog, and I'm supposed to update it with recent goings on in the Witty household...but that hasn't been happening lately.  But that doesn't mean that exciting things haven't been happening!  It just means I've been a lazy blogger...oops.

The biggest thing that's happened since I last posted is that I graduated!  I had lots of great family in town to help me celebrate-  my Uncle Mike and Aunt Marianne drove in from San Antonio, and Jeff's family came down from Mississippi.  And of course Jeff and my parents!

We started the graduation weekend with an early hooding ceremony on Friday for graduate students.



Being hooded


My mentor!



With my boss and my family


With Jeff's family


Boys being boys


The Drs. Witty ;)


Then Saturday morning was another early morning ceremony, but this time included all graduating students at Tulane.  This big unified commencement ceremony was held in the Superdome, which was pretty cool.  Making it even better, the Dalai Lama gave the commencement speech!




And we followed that up with lunch at what most people consider the best restaurant in New Orleans- Commander's Palace!










If that wasn't enough celebrating for one weekend, everyone got together for crawfish and other yummy things at my mom's house on Sunday!



Boys enjoying some crawfish




Mom cutting the cake with help from some cousins and Dad waiting for a piece ;)


"T" is for Tulane!


Delicious Italian Wedding Cake


 It was a great weekend!  I think I sort of just shut down after everything was over, thus my hiatus from blogging for a few weeks.  A week after graduation, I started teaching my very first college class at Tulane (summer school) which has kept me busier than I ever expected, another reason I haven't been blogging as much.  I'm starting to get used to my new schedule though and looking forward to sharing all of the fun things we have coming up this month- like Jeff graduating residency!  I can't believe that day is almost here :)